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Confessions (and rants) of a Failed Pamperer

The dreadfully charming Mr. Right got me the sweetest Valentine's Day gift last year. It was a certificate for a spa that included a haircut, manicure, facial, and--best of all--a massage. (I repeat MAASSSSAAAGGE. Just saying it makes you relax.) After almost a year of new motherhood, I was ready to pamper myself. The only problem was finding the time.

A few months after he gave me the certificate I went in for the haircut. Unfortunately, it was a lopsided cut that I had to have my regular hairdresser (Marina Nichols in Redmond--worth the long drive) fix soon after. And maybe it was that, or that the madness of summer came along, or that the words "Bungle of Joy, you sit in day care while Mommy gets her nails done" didn't trip off my tongue, or (most likely) that I'm a disorganized, lazy, inconsiderate, martyristic, sorry excuse of a self-pamperer...but for whatever reason I didn't pick up that damn gift certificate again until yesterday. 9/11/07

The thing expired on 9/1/07.

Dagnabit.

But surely a couple weeks isn't going to make that much of a difference for a spa that's trying to cultivate business, right? So I called them up today and humbly asked if I could still use the certificate even though it recently expired.

Dramatized for blogovision:

Spa Lady: The certificate is expired.

Me: Yes, I know, and I'm so sorry about that. But I'm wondering if there's any chance you could still honor it.

Spa Lady: The certificate expired eleven days ago.

Me: Yes, I know. But, gosh, is there any way you could let me make those appointments anyway? I could get them all finished by next week.

Spa Lady: You had six months to make your appointments.

Me [cringing at my lameness]: Yes, but I'm a new mom--that's why my husband got it for me--and six months passes really fast when you're trying to juggle work and a kid and you have to find child care to attend one of these appointments in the first place.

Spa Lady: The certificate is expired.

Me: Right.

[silence
for a
really
long
time]

Spa Lady: I'm not sure what you want me to say.

Me: Well, I'd like you to say, "Hey, you're a couple weeks late on this certificate but we'd be glad to honor it because we hope that you'll enjoy our services, and recommend us to your friends, and write about how great we are in your blog, and come back the next time you need a manicure, facial, or massage. We do pedicures, too!" [OK, so I didn't really say all that...]

Spa Lady [flatly]: There are 500 of those certificates out there. Yours is expired.

Me: I wish you tremendous luck with your business. You'll need it.

Spa Lady: click

Me: click

I know, I know. I'm acting like the spoiled brat who screws up and then doesn't want to accept the consequences--exactly the opposite type of behavior I'm hoping to teach my Bungle of Joy as she grows up. I know I should have made my appointments sooner. I know playing the frazzled mom card is the lowest of the lows. And I know it's my own damn fault that I missed that glorious MAASSSSAAAGGE. Just saying the word makes me miss it all the more.

I was STUPID STUPID STUPID (said while hitting my forehead like the nervous guy my girlfriend went on a date with in college because she was on a how-many-guys-can-you-kiss-in-a-month bet--I don't think she ended up kissing him). My point in writing this isn't to get any pity points for my own stupidity. (OK, maybe you can feel just a tad bit sorry for me that I missed that MAASSSSAAAGGE, and tell me that you've done stupid things like this before too.)

But, on the other hand, doesn't it seem just a tad bit STUPID STUPID STUPID for a small independent business to turn away customers in any shape or form? I mean, they already have my money (albeit at a discounted rate); now they should be luring me into their shop to try to develop return business, right?

The devil on my shoulder says: Go on! Tell 'em what spa it was!

The angel on my shoulder says: You'll do no such thing! Expiration is expiration. Consequences are consequences. So stop whining, Miss Entitled, Complaining, Bratty-Pants. Your job now is to tell Mr. R that you failed to use his sweet Valentine's Day gift.

gulp

Happily even after,
janna
P.S. Mr. R, if you're reading, does this count? Or do I have to tell you to your face? [cringe]
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#51761

Posted by unregistered user at 9/13/07 7:47 a.m.

You might want to check out this article about giftcards:
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2001966397_gift27m.html

#51766

Posted by Moses Lake mom at 9/13/07 8:13 a.m.

I've never heard of a gift certificate that expires so quickly. Usually they're for a year, at least.

I had a certificate I almost forgot to use one year, for the exact same reasons you listed: new mom, no time, etc. I ended up remembering it two weeks before Christmas (when it was going to expire) and I had an incredibly diffictult time making an appointment for anything! I really wanted a pedicure (they give the BEST pedicures), but that was impossible that time of year. I ended up getting a facial and got a chemical burn on my face in the process.

Husbands can be so sweet, but they need to remember to include child care with the package.

#51776

Posted by Janna Cawrse at 9/13/07 8:41 a.m.

Thought I'd make that commenter's link hot so I can go on over and check it out:
seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews
/2001966397_gift27m.htm

#51779

Posted by Janna Cawrse at 9/13/07 8:50 a.m.

Bummer. That link is no longer working. A quick search didn't come up with anything on their site either. Very curious what the article said...

Thanks for the sympathy, Moses Lake Mom. Your chemical burn story made me say OUCH.

To show you what a a loser I am, I actually HAVE child care I could have used while getting my massage et al, I just always filled that time up with work stuff instead. I SHOULD have used at least a little time to pamper myself--especially when it was already paid for, AND a gift from Mr. R. STUPID STUPID STUPID

#51789

Posted by MoonchildChrys at 9/13/07 9:11 a.m.

Oh I've done things like that so many times, and I don't even have kids or anything! It just happens. I do think that it's pretty lame of them not to honor it a few days late. Especially like you said, if they're an independent business trying to build up clientele, it would seem like basic good business practice.

I worked at a department store once. They're a widespread chain, especially now, and when I worked there, the store was just opening up (and oh man, how I liked working there better before it opened, give me labor over customers any day) and as part of our training, they went over this issue extensively - not just gift cards but also customer complaints, returns, etc. Their philosophy at the time was, if you make the customer happy, they will leave the store with positive feelings about the store. They will come back, tell their friends to come back. They very strongly felt that was more important than possibly losing some money by sticking to rigid rules. The emphasis was on a positive shopping experience. I think that's probably good all around advice.

I definitely wouldn't go back to that spa. It just seems so pointless to not honor the GC.

#51798

Posted by unregistered user at 9/13/07 10:42 a.m.

Washington has a very extensive and customer friendly law governing when and if a gift card or certificate is able to have an expiration date or maintenance fees usually charity, rewards programs etc. You might want to look up the law depending on how much you want your massage.

#51825

Posted by sea corp at 9/13/07 12:55 p.m.

Argh! Seriously? You didn't ask to speak with the manager? Wondering if the receptionist was making an 'executive decision' that the management or ownership of the spa wouldn't necessarily support. I'm thinking I might call to check on that or, better, write a letter (I know that if you don't have time to make the appts, you surely don't have time to write a letter!). And, I would certainly publish their name. You're holding yourself responsible for your decisions (blowing off making the appointments), why not hold them to the same standard?

#51827

Posted by sea corp at 9/13/07 12:56 p.m.

And another thing - girlfriend, you better treat yourself right! (Or at least let your husband treat you right...)

#51850

Posted by Susan Metters at 9/13/07 2:50 p.m.

I've got to echo what the others are saying. Yes, you screwed up by allowing the thing to expire. But any good business will know that practicing "the customer is always right" philosphy will pay off for them long-term.

Aside from that, did the gal on the phone need to be so cold and condescending? (BTW, I tried to use another word to describe her that started with a capital B but I guess the PI thinks that is profanity and wouldn't let me post it. Ha!) I mean really, if she couldn't do anything about it, she could at least have been nicer about it. That would have given you a better impression of them. You know, something like, "Oh I'm so sorry ma'am. I truly wish I could do something. I completely understand having a little one to take care of. My hands are tied, though. Please do consider treating yourself to a massage anyway. You deserve it!" You'd walk away from that conversation thinking, "Yeah I screwed up and I knew they probably couldn't do anything, but man she was nice, and she's right about me deserving a massage!!!" You get the picture. Regardless of their policy the attitude was uncalled for.

I agree with Sea Corp - call back and ask to talk to the manager. And make sure you tell them about the condescending attitude. If you find that the manager is just as cold and condescending, then DEFINITELY publish their name because I don't want to go to a spa where I'm not treated like a queen! (That's what spas are supposed to do, right? Make us feel like queens?)

Okay Janna, the pressure is on now. We expect to see a follow-up blog hearing what happened when you called the manager.

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